Lot 5 之家

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

孩子,看看这世界……

/ Obasan

最近为了孩子去台湾升学的事,忙得焦头烂额。为他上网查寻相关的大学,准备申请大学的资料,由于他是以外籍生申请入学,因此,跑教育部、外交部等相关单位都必需亲力亲为,简直累死了。

回头看看孩子,一幅优哉闲哉的样子,升学的事似乎与他无关,只等着上飞机而已。

刚巧有另一位同事的孩子也准备去升学,一天谈起时,原来大家都有同感,为何处理起这样的事,都觉得像是自己要去升学似的,都是父母亲在为孩子而忙,而孩子却在坐享其成。同事说:"这也许是我们父母太行的关系吧?也看不惯他们处事慢吞吞的态度,只好自己做了。" ~也许吧?我也不知道。只觉得这一代的孩子都太幸福了,不知人间疾苦为何物。

前阵子收到朋友传来有关孟加拉国首都―― Dhaka的童工照片,看了令人伤感。看看我的孩子,再看看那些小当家们,我将它转传给我的孩子看,希望他能珍惜他所拥有的……


Child Labour at Dhaka

I shed into tears seeing them struggle for life. We are so fortunate.......


Jainal works in silver cooking pot factory. He is 11 years old. He has been working in this factory for three years. His work starts at 9 a.m. and ends at 6 p.m. For his work he gets 700 taka (10 USD) for a month. His parents are so poor that they can not afford to send him to school. According to the factory owner, the parents do not care for their children; they send their kids to work for money and allegedly don't feel sorry for these small kids. Dhaka 2008 .


A young laborer making metal components at a factory. Dhaka . Bangladesh


13-year-oldLiyakot Ali works in a silver cooking pot factory in Old Dhaka . The children work 10 hour days in hazardous conditions, for a weekly wage of 200 taka (3 USD). Dhaka . Bangladesh . June 2008


7-year-oldJasmine collects rubbish from a steaming rubbish heap on a cold winter morning. She earns money to support her family by scavenging for items on the Kajla rubbish dump. It is one of three landfill sites in a city of 12 million people. Around 5,000 tons of garbage are dumped here each day and more than 1,000 people work among the rubbish, sorting through the waste and collecting items to sell to retailers for recycling.


A young girl working in a brick crushing factory in Dhaka .


Children at a brick factory in Fatullah. For each 1,000 bricks they carry, they earn the equivalent of 0.9 USD.



Hands of 8-year-old Munna while working in a rickshaw parts making factory. He works 10 hours a day and gets 8 USD for a month. Dhaka 2007.


Ten-year-old Shaifur working in a door lock factory in Old Dhaka . Unlike his colleague, Shaifur works without a mask.



Children are compelled to work for long working hours with inadequate or no rest period. Moreover, they are paid with minimum wages and enjoy no job security. Many people prefer to employ young boys to maximize services for those minimum wages. Dhaka 2006.



Thirteen-year-old Islam works in a silver cooking pot factory. He has been working at the factory for the last two years, in hazardous conditions, where it is common practice for the factory owners to take on children as unpaid apprentices, only providing them with two meals a day.


Monday, June 15, 2009

拉近彼此的心

母亲节过去了,接踵而来的六月里,有父亲节和教师节,由此可知,五月和六月间是散播着一片爱的天空,因为父母之爱和师生之爱遍溢在我们社会的各个角落,所以,我们青少年的朋友,理应在这温馨善诱和春风化雨的感化底下,该是多么有福!

然而,不知从何开始,也不知那里出了差错,我们常会看到,有许多父母和孩子之间却面对了代沟或关系疏离的问题。

其实,孩子快乐且健康的成长,是父母最大的喜悦。

所以,青少年朋友,不要动不动只说父母不了解你,有时也要先问问自己,有没有尝试把心底的话说出来让父母知道呢?

我的意思是,就在我们埋怨父母不了解我们的同时,我们对于 父母的处境又何尝做过对等的了解,或是将心比心站在他们的立场去想过呢?

其实,除了少数之外,天下的父母多数是爱自己子女的,只是每个父母所表达的方式不一样而已。而且,很多父母要的不多,只要在这段最难的成长期中,你能平安顺利度过,好好照顾自己的身体和心灵,他们即使再辛苦些也无怨无悔!

青少年朋友,好不好让我们一起来重新认识我们的家庭和亲子关系,把我们彼此的心拉近一点,好吗?

我想,沟通,将是维系现代家庭和亲子关系的根本,尤其是青少年的成长必须在家庭中认识自己该有的学习方向――互相了解、接受差异、互相尊重……等多角度理性的沟通。

理性沟通或良好沟通,说穿了无非是双方了解彼此的感受,以同理心来解决问题。我深信,唯有在理性的沟通情境下才能使家庭成为快乐天堂,否则,一定会使家庭成为亲密生活中的战场。

面对自己亲生的父母,我们没有理由也没有藉口不能进行沟通;而且,沟通必须要成为一种习惯的养成,否则,谈何容易?

⊙曾庆方